Send the Praise

RSS Archive

Life is nothing more than folly following whimsy and dusk following dawn, and I am nothing more than a poet writing lines that mean more to me than anyone else. One day I'll make sense of all this. Maybe. Just recently moved back to Northeast Florida to take a really cool job. Single white male, privileged but not haughty, well-spoken but not particularly well-read, smarter than I look with hair more famous and memorable than I ever hope to be on my own. And just so you know, in case my content didn't give it away, I'm a huge homo. So there. Welcome to my glass house. Aim = PragmaticChris Ask humbly and ye shall be answered

January 26, 2012

Let’s talk about this for a moment because I’m feeling scrappy and Nicholas Sparks hits a sharp note with me on everything. Isn’t there something unabashedly lame about the sentiment above? I mean this is clearly something that a lot of people yearn for, that finding the one thing you’ve always dreamed of and being able to hold on to that thing. But no, that isn’t what I read in the paragraph above.

I see resignation. I see codependency. In the context of the movie, I see sexism. At best I see naivety. At worst I see a lie. I see pandering to a lonely demographic who has been convinced by marketers and storytellers for the past 100 years that reality is not what you actually see around you. Boosterism in an extreme.

Maybe I’m cynical or jaded or whatever, but that thing you love so much isn’t everything you’ve dreamed and quite frankly, it shouldn’t be. I don’t want someone else to be Paris on a crisp May evening AND an afternoon fishing on the boat AND that studio behind the farmhouse where I work on my installation for the restaurant. I want that someone that I love to be there when I need them, not constantly, not forever, but when I come home from work and just want to sit with a cup of tea and read that new Clinton biography that I found last week. I want my dreams to be alongside that other person, coinciding, collaborating, occasionally intersecting, but not reliant on them. I don’t want the quality of my day to be solely dependent on the fact that the person in my life was my everything. People are tiresome.

And please, “no matter what happens to us in the future…” is bullshit. Everything that happens matters and will affect the relationship, whether you want it to or not.

(via theprufrockofnow)

5:00pm | URL: http://tmblr.co/ZY6H7yFPsqQy

(Notes: 4,769)